Writing through Adversity

February 8th, 2012 by Kat Kingsley-Hughes

One of the things I want to share on here are some of the great tips that I have received from generous people about ways to get through everything that has happened recently.

Of those tips, the greatest is to write, write and write some more.

In fact I am writing around 8,000 words per day at the moment. And that’s in addition to my regular writing work.  It is a phenomenal output for me and has really made me glimpse what I am capable of in terms of sheer daily word-count. All this writing reduces the ‘activation energy’ that is normally required to start getting words out onto the page, which makes the writing flow better all round, including my work.

Write. It helps!

The most important thing about the writing, though, is that it helps. It is a cathartic process, but a discreet one. It’s all too easy to go telling all and sundry your problems and it’s easy to turn into a relationship bore, which not only turns off your existing friends but also gets in the way of making new ones. More than ever during a relationship crisis it’s important to get a life. Going over and over your old one will just get in the way of moving on. If you can tell most of it to the page it means your friends are still ready, willing and able to help out with the practical things and for those times when nothing short of crying on someone’s shoulder will do.

The page comes in very handy. It doesn’t care how much you bang on about stuff. It doesn’t care whether you repeat yourself, or constantly go over old ground. It doesn’t judge you. It doesn’t try to advise you. It doesn’t have an ego to get in the way. It doesn’t care if what you say today completely contradicts what you said yesterday. It doesn’t have a vested interest in the you of the past or the you of tomorrow.

Great Prep for Relationship Counselling

If you are receiving counselling your writing can be very useful in clarifying your thoughts and aiding in your homework (One thing about break-ups is not just counsellors seem to be setting me homework. I have found even total strangers telling me to read this book, or to ponder on that.)  This part of life is a learning process, or perhaps a crash course, and it seems like everyone has something to offer. Distilling all this wisdom as well as your own revelations onto the page gives you a rich repository to call when you need it.

Build yourself an Emotional Nest Egg!

What’s more all this writing will come in very useful later. If you keep a blow-by-blow account of everything you’re feeling and experiencing at this difficult time you will find it pays dividends not only in terms of charting your growth and giving you a perspective on your thoughts and feelings now and in the weeks to come that you wouldn’t be able to recreate in retrospect, but also in terms of being a rich vein of raw life experience that you can refer to later in your writing career. In those terms, that raw tear-streaked emotional record will be worth more than gold!!

So write it down!

And good luck! Please share your comments and feedback below. I look forward to hearing from you if you found this useful – or even if you disagreed! Let me know how you get on!!


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