Carl Rogers on People and Sunsets



April 4th, 2021 by Kat Kingsley-Hughes

“People are just as wonderful as sunsets if I can let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, ‘Soften the orange a little on the right hand corner, and put a bit more purple along the base, and use a little more pink in the cloud color.’ I don’t do that. I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch it with awe as it unfolds.”

~ Carl Rogers

This quote is one that really inspires me. Because I love sunsets and because I am in awe of people. In Hakomi we learn about loving presence- being with a person and just allowing yourself to sit in awe. This being has made it through their life this far. They are brimming with life and experience. No matter how old they are they have a whole lifetime’s worth! This being has unique resources and skills. They may have developed those as a result of trauma or pain, but they are still superpowers. Looking at a being with kindly curiosity. Listening, not only to their words, but also the prosody of their voice and intonation. Noticing the emotions and the body language which shares more eloquently than their words ever could. Resonating limbic system to limbic system with this individual.

This unique being before you is as beautiful as a sunset. And just like sunsets the moment passes, and they move along with their life – but what a wonderfully rich memory remains!

Knowing that you were present with them for that moment is pure gold.

Knowing that you were fully present with yourself in their presence is beyond riches.

Knowing that you are forever changed by the encounter – just like pausing to watch a sunset.

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